I am fat. I've been told in no uncertain terms that I am fat. Is that who I am? Is that the ONLY thing that matters about me? Somehow, no matter what I accomplish, or what talents I have, the only thing that gets counted is that I'm fat. So is fat an identity? Does being fat cancel out everything else in a person's life? If so, that makes me sad.
When someone tells you something over and over, you start to believe it. I believe it now.