Do you ever dream bigger than you can define?

Lately I have been thinking about my career. I love what I do, but there's something missing. I have a dream, but I don't know how to define it. That's so weird because usually, I would say, well if you cannot define it, then you don't know what it is. But I do know what it is. Maybe I should say I don't know what to call it. I want to do what I'm doing either on a larger more meaningful scale, or in a way that hasn't been done before. I want to do things like write, speak, present, mentor, consult, teach. I want to use everything I have learned in my career and do those things. What is that even called? How do I make that a career? I'm reaching that age where it's either time to settle in and accept that this is my life, which isn't really a bad thing, or step out of my comfort zone and move on to bigger things. I have the experience, the knowledge, and finally the confidence! Ok, maybe not ALL the confidence because I still haven't gone out there and figured out wtf I can do to make all of this a reality. 

I feel this longing to reach new heights and connect with more people. I want to be able to network, attend conferences with likeminded people and people who can teach me things I never knew I wanted to learn. Again, the question....how do I get there? How do I do that? Do I "just do it" as Nike says? I've always been careful--too careful and when I look back I wonder if I missed out on great opportunities because I was too cautious. I don't know but living a life of "what ifs" isn't productive. I need to focus on what I am going to do--what I'm doing to do NOW. I just need to figure that out. 

If you have any suggestions, let me know. Does anyone even read this? I started out as a "I love routines" blog and somehow morphed into "what is my life and other random musings". Then I transferred some other blog entries from an old site (don't ask) and they're out of order, which if you read from the beginning, makes me insane. 

On that note, I'll leave you to ponder what I've said here.
Until next time....

It hurts my heart

Why is it that one small thing can stab me in the heart and seemingly nullify all the good of the last week or so? Why don't people have the guts to confront others in the moment when they feel they've been wronged? A week later and I don't even remember enough to be able to apologize more than by just saying I'm sorry for offending you. I don't even know what I did. I don't remember saying or doing what you claim I did. How can that be that I have no idea what happened and the other person is CERTAIN I spewed out a hateful remark. Sigh. I try to live by the adage "sometimes it's better to be happy than to be right". It's hard when I constantly find myself letting the other person be right. That should leave me being happy? I don't know anymore. I do the best I can and it seems I fall short too many times.

So much for all that therapy and groups I attended over the years. I thought I had learned coping skills and become more mindful of my feelings and those of others. Apparently, I haven't changed. I still find out (after the fact!) that I've fallen short of my expectations and others' of me. The thing that hurts the most is that someone would think so little of me to say that I would say or do something so incredibly hateful. Do they really think that? Have I put on a face of evil that the world sees instead of the kind, generous, helpful person I thought I was? 

Once again, I sit here feeling like a failure. I thought I raised my self-esteem but now I have to dig out of the dirt again.

A New Year, A New Start

Where has the time gone? It's January 1, 2019. How long will it take me to remember to write that on checks, contracts, etc? 

Every January 1, I feel a sense of excitement and dread. Excitement that it's a time to start fresh, start new habits, improve myself, and be more intentional in everything I do. Dread because time flies and forces me to face my mortality as well as that of my parents and friends. But let us focus on the good.

I am working on having achievable goals. I know that breaking things down into small pieces ensures success. I am going to work diligently on doing just that. I want to feel successful and instead of making lofty goals that are too big to face at once, thus making me feel like a failure after a week, I will break down those goals into small chunks that are bound to be successful. I also want to practice what I preach which is that just because I didn't achieve a goal, it doesn't mean I failed. I start again from where I left off (note I did not say from the beginning). 

Goals for January
Stay on budget for eating out ($40/mo)
Put $50 more into savings than last month ($12.50/wk)
Lose 8 pounds (2 pounds a week)
1 day a week without dairy 

Fired up and ready to vote

I am FIRED UP and ready to vote. This country needs some saving before it disintegrates into a pile of ashes. Or worse. We need a blue tsunami, hurricane, tornado, whatever it takes to vote those old white out of touch racist, bigoted, misogynistic, jackasses OUT. VOTE VOTE VOTE! Do not stay home. Do not say you have no way of getting to the polls. Vote by mail, get a ride, Uber and Lyft will give FREE rides to polls. Do not stay home. I repeat DO NOT STAY HOME! Make your voice heard. Make it heard loud and clear. BLUE BLUE BLUE BLUE!
#votebluenomatterwho
#VoteTheGOPOut

Shouting into the void

I am SO angry right now. After watching (and screaming at) the TV on Thursday, I am in utter disbelief that anyone with half a heart and part of a soul, could think this woman made this up or is lying. Yes, some of the memories might be fuzzy and certain events may not have happened exactly as she remembers them--it was THIRTY SIX YEARS AGO! I would say the same for the man screaming and crying for hours on end. I'm sure he doesn't recall things perfectly either. And no, having a calendar, playing football, going to church, and having friends who say you're a great guy, does NOT MAKE YOU INNOCENT. This guy was unable (unwilling) to answer any question while the woman answered every question and admitted if she didn't remember or wasn't sure. She never flinched, she never wavered, and she was courteous the entire time. He, on the other hand, made himself look like a donkey's behind. Actually, that's an insult to donkeys and their backsides. He exhibited clear signs of alcoholism and uncontrolled rage. He LIED and he doesn't care. And even though the committee before him probably believes he committed this heinous act, they either don't care or they are too cowardly to go against their party. FUCKING COWARDS! They'd rather be accepted by their asshat peers than actually have a conscience. Fuck them with a sharp and rusty stick.

And we wonder why people don't come forward. When they're young, they are scared, feel guilty, and maybe even ashamed. Some feel maybe it was their fault. Those who do come forward are told it wasn't that big of a deal and besides, it probably was all in fun. Nobody believes them. When they get older and have the courage to come forward, they're asked why they didn't say anything when it happened.  Either way, NOBODY BELIEVES THEM. They are harassed, they receive death threats, they're forced to move out of their homes, and people still wonder why they didn't come forward before. THIS IS WHY! This has to change. What if it were your daughter? Your sister? Your wife? Your best friend? Your Aunt? Your grandmother? What if it were YOU? We cannot stand by and allow this to continue. Stand up and fight back. And NEVER back down. 

Everyone who is registered to vote, needs to get out and vote in Nov. VOTE BLUE and keep the waves in motion for 2020. #enoughisenough #VoteThemOut #VoteVlueNoMatterWho

Unschooling is just an excuse

Unschooling is a controversial subject to be sure. Basically, it's learning through living your life. From what I see, it's simply not going to school, having no accountability for learning anything, and an excuse to stay home and do whatever you want. Many people say these kids can go on to college and have successful careers. Ummm....how do you apply to college when all you've done is do what you feel like? Maybe you went to a museum and learned about science but that doesn't replace a science class at school. And what about the arts? Foreign language? And yes, I'm including a bilingual family. There are other languages to learn besides your native ones. 
I think unschooling is neglecting your kids and/or catering to their desire to stay home. It's a complete joke. It would be a very special child who actually ventured forth to learn more than a few things in an unschooling environment. The philosophy includes children learning what they're interested in and pursuing those things. So if a child isn't interested in math, they don't have to learn it? What about things they have no idea about and don't have a chance to find out if they're interested? 
Sorry, but unschooling is a bad idea. Just my opinion, of course. :)

Numbing out

Sometimes the emotions are too strong. Sometimes I want to stay out of jail. My friends don't have bail money and neither so I. So I refrain from telling someone they are a f*king twatwad and other things, and instead enjoy a large adult beverage. I may or may not be under the influence right now so who knows wtf I am writing. I cannot and will not be held responsible for this. Seriously.

Why do people feel like they can just chime in after the fact and claim they were there the whole time. They make you feel like YOU are the one who misunderstood but if you apologize for that, they only sort of accept it and insist they are right. WTF ever. You be right. I'm happy. So fuck you. Yeah, I'm happy.

It's not my job and it never was so good luck doing it your damn self. I'm out. 

Ranteunt exeunt fuckyou-eunt.